another challenge for career woman

"Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career."

i don't even know what to think about this article published by Forbes Magazine. Don't Marry Career Women. The article basically says that a woman with a career will lead a man into a life of troubles. That the more successful a woman becomes, the less happy she is with her husband. I am completely shocked. I am no feminist. But I am a woman and I have a career.

"To be clear, we're not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a "career girl" has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year."

That is the typical female that I know. Most of my friends make over $30K a year and work at least 40 hours a week. What choice do we have? I can not survive without a job. I do what I enjoy doing. And right now I work for a large corporation and have a defined career path. It is hard juggling a career, a household and a marriage, but why is it different from what a man has to do with his career and marriage? I don't even see how two people can make it today if they decide to have kids and both people don't work. In the rare cases where one spouse (typically the man) makes a superior salary, then fine. But that is just not the norm. I'd think that a man would have to make about $150,000 to be able to support his family on his own. That's a lot of money!

The article goes on to say that not only will be husband be unhappy, but the the kids will too. As for women who choose not to work before they have kids, I look at then as somewhat weak. Staying home with the kids is fine. But once they are grown enough to go to school full time, back to work it should be - or start a small business on their own where they can work from home. I have some friends that did indeed go to college and then got a job. But nothing with any substance. They did want to get married and have kids. They were always happy to do that and have someone else support them. But who wouldn't? Shit, I'd love to not have to get up and go to a job every day. Be able to take care of things for me, like my house and kids, instead of spending all my energy and brain power on a project at work that adds considerable stress in my life. I'd love to spend that energy on people I love like kids and husband. But it is just never been an option to me. I've always been the one with the steady job that has health insurance and a 401(k).

so many aspects of this article are ridiculous i can't imagine why i continued to read it all the way through. they actually claim that a woman with a career has a higher chance of leaving her husband to run off with a co-worker. the woman that would run out on her husband is the problem. if she didn't find this other man at work, she'd have found him at the grocery store or someplace else because she was obviously looking.

i'm all for free speech and opinoins, but i'm offended by this and surprised that forbes magazine would publish this. the tone of this article is a complete slight at career woman and that makes up a significant amount of their readers. they comment that these are the results of a study, but it really is phrased like an opinoin piece.